Social Life by Maud C. Cooke

CONTAININGTHE RULES OF ETIQUETTE FOR ALL OCCASIONS ANDFORMING A COMPLETE GUIDE TO SELF-CULTUREIN CONVERSATION, DRESS, DEPORTMENT,CORRESPONDENCE, THE CARE OFCHILDREN AND THE HOME.

Author: Maud C. Cooke
Published: 1896
Language: English
Wordcount: 152,843 / 456 pg
Flesch-Kincaid Reading Ease: 62.3
LoC Category: BJ

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Genre: Etiquette

forgiveness yourself.

“6. Never retort a sharp or angry word. It is the second word that makes the quarrel.

“7. Beware of the first disagreement.

“8. Learn to speak in a gentle tone of voice.

“9. Learn to say kind and pleasant things when opportunity offers.

“10. Study the characters of those with whom you come in contact, and sympathize with them in all their troubles, however small.

“11. Do not neglect little things if they can affect the comfort of others in the smallest degree.

“12. Avoid moods, and pets, and fits of sulkiness.

“13. Learn to deny yourself and prefer others.

“14. Beware of meddlers and tale-bearers.

“15. Never charge a bad motive, if a good one is conceivable.”

Courtesy, charity and love are one, and, when all good deeds are done the warning comes: “If ye have not charity” all is naught. Therefore:

“A sweet, attractive kind of grace, A full assurance given by looks, Continual comfort in a face, The lineame

How to Observe by Harriet Martineau

Author: Harriet Martineau
Published: 1838
Language: English
Wordcount: 67,558 / 201 pg
Flesch-Kincaid Reading Ease: 63.6
LoC Categories: GT, B

Downloads: 5,604
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Genres: Instructional, Etiquette, Philosophy

No books are so little to be trusted as travels. All travellers do and must generalize too rapidly. Most, if not all, take a fact for a principle, or the exception for the rule, more or less; and the quickest minds, which love to reason and explain more than to observe with patience, go most astray. My faith in travels received a mortal wound when I travelled. I read, as I went along, the books of those who had preceded me, and found that we did not see with the same eyes. Even descriptions of nature proved false. The traveller had viewed the prospect at a different season, or in a different light, and substituted the transient for the fixed. Still I think travels useful. Different accounts give means of approximation to truth; and by-and-by what is fixed and essential in a people will be brought out.”

It ought to be an animating thought to a traveller that, even if it be not in his power to settle any one point respecting the morals and manners of an empire, he can infallibly aid in supplying means of

The Ladies’ Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness by Florence Hartley

Author: Florence Hartley
Published: 1860
Language: English
Wordcount: 87,116 / 255 pg
Flesch-Kincaid Reading Ease: 51.2
LoC Category: BJ

Downloads: 4,289
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Genre: Etiquette

clients, artists on their paintings, merchants or mechanics of their several branches of business. Professional or business men, when with ladies, generally wish for miscellaneous subjects of conversation, and, as their visits are for recreation, they will feel excessively annoyed if obliged to “talk shop.” Still many men can converse on no other subject than their every day employment. In this case listen politely, and show your interest. You will probably gain useful information in such conversation.

Never question the veracity of any statement made in general conversation. If you are certain a statement is false, and it is injurious to another person, who may be absent, you may quietly and courteously inform the speaker that he is mistaken, but if the falsehood is of no consequence, let it pass. If a statement appears monstrous, but you do not know that it is false, listen, but do not question its veracity. It may be true, though it strikes you as improbable.

Never attempt to dispara

Rollo in Society by George Shepard Chappell

Although this little book is primarily intended for the entertainment of youthful readers, it is hoped by the writer that it may also aid in accomplishing a number of useful purposes and may prove to be, in the hands of parents, a guide for the modern child through the devious paths which his or her feet must inevitably tread.

Author: George Shepard Chappell
Published: 1922
Language: English
Wordcount: 16,042 / 53 pg
Flesch-Kincaid Reading Ease: 79.8
LoC Category: PS

Downloads: 1,049
Added to site: 2010.03.03
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Origin: gutenberg.org

Genres: Instructional, Young Readers, Etiquette

eat as heartily as possible.

[Illustration: “At everything Rollo said Stella and Anabelle laughed very loud”]

First of all there was a band of music, the like of which Rollo had never heard before. There was also the prettiest little fountain.

“Do you suppose they would let me angle in the fountain, Cousin Stella?” asked Rollo, thinking of his little line and bobbin at home, and keeping time to the music with his fork.

“Yes, indeed, Rollo, old Kid,” said his cousin.

When Rollo was not engaged in looking about the room, he was occupied in watching his Cousin Stella, who did many things which surprised him. To begin with, she always talked when her mouth was full, and she was never still a moment, what with pointing, gesticulating, and jumping from her chair to greet other friends who passed their table. At everything Rollo said, Stella and Anabelle and Rupie laughed very loud, and Rupie surprised Rollo several times by slapping him sharply on the back, on one occasion causin

Routledge’s Manual of Etiquette by George Routledge

Author: George Routledge
Language: English
Wordcount: 88,366 / 261 pg
Flesch-Kincaid Reading Ease: 57.5
LoC Category: GT

Downloads: 2,795
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Origin: gutenberg.org

Genres: Non-fiction, Instructional, Etiquette

already established before the fire, a battle may ensue, and one or other of the pets be seriously hurt. Besides, many persons have a constitutional antipathy to dogs, and others never allow their own to be seen in the sitting-rooms. For all or any of these reasons, a visitor has no right to inflict upon her friend the society of her dog as well as of herself. Neither is it well for a mother to take young children with her when she pays morning visits; their presence, unless they are unusually well trained, can only be productive of anxiety to both yourself and your hostess. She, while striving to amuse them, or to appear interested in them, is secretly anxious for the fate of her album, or the ornaments on her _étagére_; while the mother is trembling lest her children should say or do something objectionable.

If other visitors are announced, and you have already remained as long as courtesy requires, wait till they are seated, and then rise from your chair, take leave of your hostess, and bow politely to

The Complete Bachelor by Walter Germain

For many years, while conducting the query or “agony department” in Vogue, I received letters from all parts of the United States asking for information on certain details of etiquette which seem to have been overlooked by the compilers or writers of etiquette manuals. My correspondents always wanted these questions answered from the New York standpoint. All this I have endeavored to do in this volume. I have devoted a chapter to sports. In this I have made no attempt to give the rules of the various pastimes therein enumerated. I have simply jotted down some points which I hope may be of use to the outsider.

Author: Walter Germain
Published: 1896
Language: English
Wordcount: 42,862 / 130 pg
Flesch-Kincaid Reading Ease: 64.3
LoC Category: GT

Downloads: 7,026
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Genres: Instructional, Etiquette

is the attire for weddings–for the bridegroom, best man, ushers, and male guests; at afternoon teas, afternoon receptions, afternoon calls, afternoon walks on the fashionable avenue, garden parties (but not picnics), luncheons, and, in fact, at all formal or semiformal functions taking place between midday and candlelight, as well as at church on Sundays, at funerals, and in the park in London after midday.

Gray frock-coat suits are recent introductions from London, and have been worn at all the functions at which the black is required, but the latter is more conservative and in better taste. The afternoon dress is seldom worn in midsummer, morning suits being allowable at seaside and mountain-resort day functions.

Evening dress is the proper attire, winter or summer, on all occasions after candlelight. There are two kinds of evening dress, formal and informal.

Formal or “full” evening dress, as it is sometimes vulgarly called, consists of the evening or “swallowtail” coat of b

How to Behave: A Pocket Manual of Republican Etiquette, and Guide to Correct Personal Habits by Samuel Roberts Wells

Author: Samuel Roberts Wells
Published: 1887
Language: English
Wordcount: 52,402 / 164 pg
Flesch-Kincaid Reading Ease: 48.3
LoC Category: BJ

Downloads: 8,121
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Origin: gutenberg.org

Genres: Instructional, Non-fiction, Etiquette

session. The truth is palpable, that our men are not all gentlemen, nor our women all ladies, nor our children all docile and obliging. In that small and insignificant circle which is called ‘Society,’ which, small and insignificant as it is, gives the tone to the manners of the nation, the chief efforts seem to be, to cleanse the outside of the platter, to conceal defects by gloss and glitter. Its theory of politeness and its maxims of behavior are drawn from a state of things so different from that which here prevails, that they produce in us little besides an exaggerated ungracefulness, a painful constraint, a complete artificiality of conduct and character. We are trying to shine in borrowed plumes. We would glisten with foreign varnish. To produce an effect is our endeavor. We prefer to act, rather than live. The politeness which is based on sincerity, good-will, self-conquest, and a minute, habitual regard for the rights of others, is not, we fear, the politeness which finds f

The Etiquette of To-day by Edith B. Ordway

The customs of social life need frequent restating and adaptation to new needs. They are customs because they are the best rules of conduct that have been garnered from the experiences of succeeding generations under common conditions.To know them, to catch their spirit, and to follow them in an intelligent way, without slavish punctiliousness but with careful observance, make one skillful in the art of social intercourse, and at home in any society.

Author: Edith B. Ordway
Published: 1918
Language: English
Wordcount: 52,612 / 161 pg
Flesch-Kincaid Reading Ease: 60.5
LoC Category: GT

Downloads: 4,447
Added to site: 2007.08.28
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Genres: Instructional, Etiquette

ho nevertheless was a person of great charm.

One’s figure and bearing count perhaps for most, as they give the first and distant impression, and are, as it were, the outlines of the picture.

Self-consciousness, for any reason and to even the slightest degree, is a great barrier to social intercourse and to mental freedom. It shows as often in a person’s carriage as in his words or features. It should be broken down at all costs, and this can be done only by the person himself. It may be done, usually with comparative ease, by becoming and staying interested in something. Then awkwardness, and a defiant attitude of spirit and body, will vanish. Haughtiness is usually the outward sign of a great inner self-consciousness. All of these traits, as well as their opposites, stamp themselves upon the bearing of the body, and reveal there the clearest manifestations of character.

Dress is almost as essential. By this is not meant a rigid adherence to fashion,–the stamp of a weak mind,–or even go